Ditch The Mirror!!

My Boudoir shoots are all about boosting confidence and showing a woman just how fantastic they really are. I know.....you've read those kind of words many, many times over the years when I've written about Boudoir shoots. I won't apologise for that, because it is genuinely what I believe and does truly work....however....there will always be some women that still have body 'issues'. Now, I'm not going to belittle anyone's idea of how they see themselves. It's quite natural, all be told, looking at yourself in front of a mirror, there's plenty of time to spot and fret about flaws and imperfections. But what is perfect anyway? Is there such a thing? I doubt it. In fact I know there isn't. We are all unique, we are all different, so comparing yourself to others and your own idea of perfect is always going to end in tears, isn't it?.
Easier said than done I know, but we shouldn't we just listen when others pay us a compliment or are positive about us? I think yes.....you never see yourself as others do.
Practically every woman I have photographed will list at least two things they don't like about their bodies, or indeed how they look, but does anyone actually notice? When I leave a Boudoir shoot, I'm never left with negative thoughts about the client or model. Instead I'm always struck by a positive; beautiful eyes, gorgeous smile, bubbly personality, they were fun, funny, smart, clever....etc etc. the list goes on, and I know I'm not alone in this. When you hear women talking about their friends and how they look it's the same thing, positives, "ah she's beautiful", "I wish I had her looks"...so ladies....give yourselves a break.....ditch the mirror and listen to what others say...you might just be surprised!!